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Bridesmaid Wants to Avoid Attending Friend's Wedding Over Expenses; Netizens React

Despite the bride's apology for the date change, she had not acknowledged the financial burden it imposed on her friend.
PUBLISHED MAR 14, 2024
Cover Image Source: Bridesmaid grapples with $8,000 wedding dilemma | Pexels | Photo by Terje Sollie
Cover Image Source: Bridesmaid grapples with $8,000 wedding dilemma | Pexels | Photo by Terje Sollie

Most people are looking for ways to save money at a time when costs of living are surging, and while those getting married may want to cut down on expenses, guests aren't far behind either. A 32-year-old woman has ignited a fervent discussion on Reddit after seeking advice on whether to fabricate a conflicting commitment to avoid attending her friend's destination wedding, which would cost her an estimated $8,000. The woman, identified only as a bridesmaid for her childhood friend Kayla, shared her financial dilemma on Reddit's "Am I an A------?" subreddit, sparking debate about the ethicality of her proposed solution, as per Brides.

Pexels | Photo by Lukas
Bridesmaid contemplates backing out of destination wedding (representative image) |  Pexels | Photo by Lukas

The Reddit user detailed her predicament, explaining that Kayla had recently rescheduled her wedding, which is set to take place in a northern Scandinavian town. The bridesmaid calculated that she would need to cover airfare, pet boarding, a rental car, accommodations, traditional Scandinavian attire, and her bridesmaid dress, totaling at least $8,000.

Reddit | /r/AmItheAsshole
Reddit | @/r/AmItheAsshole

The bridesmaid also disclosed that she and her husband had been diligently saving for their tenth-anniversary trip—a three-week tour around Japan. However, the unexpected change in the wedding date jeopardized their plans and forced them to reconsider their finances. Kayla's response was dismissive, which made the bridesmaid contemplate making up an excuse to decline the invitation.

The proposed solution involved feigning a major home repair expense that would consume their savings, thereby, allowing them to decline the wedding invitation without disclosing their true intentions. Despite feeling guilty and hypocritical due to her own destination wedding experience, the bridesmaid believed that the cost of Kayla's wedding outweighed any moral qualms about deception. She expressed concern about the potential consequences of revealing the truth, as it could strain their friendship irreparably.

Pexels | Photo by Emma Bauso
Pexels | Photo by Emma Bauso

In her plea for advice, the bridesmaid solicited input from fellow Reddit users on the best course of action. Many sympathized with her financial predicament, acknowledging the exorbitant cost of attending the wedding. However, opinions diverged on the appropriateness of deception. While some advocated for honesty, suggesting that the bridesmaid should inform Kayla of her financial constraints, others cautioned against the risks associated with lying.

Several users emphasized the importance of open communication and transparency in maintaining healthy relationships, urging the bridesmaid to consider the long-term implications of her decision. While the financial burden imposed by Kayla's wedding was undeniable, deceiving her friend could make things worse.

Reddit | /r/AmItheAsshole
Reddit | @/r/AmItheAsshole

In an impassioned response, @Miserable_Dentist_70 expressed disbelief at the exorbitant cost of attending the wedding, asserting that $8,000 is an unreasonable sum to ask of anyone. They advocated for straightforward honesty, advising the bridesmaid to assertively communicate her inability to afford such expenses. @WatchingTellyNow proposed a pragmatic solution, suggesting that the bridesmaid could explain that she had already booked a non-refundable trip, thereby, excusing her inability to attend the wedding. They concurred with @Miserable_Dentist_70's sentiment that the astronomical cost of the wedding would inevitably deter some guests from attending. @Fit_Interaction9203 shared their incredulity at the disparity between the cost of the wedding in question and their own wedding expenses. They pointed out how their entire wedding, which included catering for 50 people, cost less than the $8,000 required to attend the destination wedding.

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